Smoke and mirrors

women.I can’t help but sometimes dislike that I have the ability to see the good in people, to look beyond actions, analyse, and create probabilities as to why they say and do things untoward.   Is it because I don’t want people to be bad? That the harsh reality of people’s selfish nature is simply too much for my good willed personality?  Sure I have a harsh side but I’ve never gone to great lengths to hurt someone.

Trust is such a precious gift so easily taken advantage of these days, as if its readily replaceable.  It takes but a moment to take and so much time to rekindle.  Or perhaps that’s why people break it to hurt others – they know how painful broken trust it, its gut wrenching.  It’s that sick feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when something goes seriously wrong.  In saying this its almost always done via text – its must be so easy not to say it to my face.

Indeed I have meet so many others from dating sites that are clearly so burnt and weathered from previous relationships that they are now made from porcelain.  So scared they are of shattering they develop massive offense and defense mechanisms that go of with the slightest breeze.  Have they ever wondered though that one person’s mistakes are not another’s?


What not to talk about on a first date

Ok I get that there is a risk in online dating – you are in fact making contact with complete strangers who could be anyone or say anything they like.  Its a growing problem in anything online, you can lie your arse off if you want to – and lets face it Angry man about to smash a lap top on the groundwe have all probably tick the box against “body type” saying we are a slim build when in fact winter has not been kind to our stomachs at all!

So what happens when things turn nasty? Well I haven’t had this experience and I really hope never to BUT….one of the guys I meet up with from an online site had a stalker.  Not a nice experience and the police had to get involved.

So where am I going with this? Whats it got to do with me? Not much actually – but I got to hear the full story when I meet this guy for the first time.  Not something I wanted to chat about really….and as far as I know the dating rules are:

First Encounter Rules – Dont talk about:

  1. Your Ex
  2. Religion
  3. Politics
  4. Stretch marks
  5. Warts
  6. Some rash you needed to get cream for but still dont know what it is
  7. Oh and NOW I would like to add: the last girl you dated which turned into a stalker

I felt bad for the guy there is no denying that – but Im not that girl and having to listen to how psychotic you think girls are, isn’t really inspiring me to date you.